Holiday Deconstruction

Are you stressed about future holiday events, being cooped up with an unsupportive family, or grieving old traditions? You are not alone. Deconstructing from religion becomes incredibly challenging through the holiday season. The cacophony of holiday expectations and bewildering melancholy is deafening at times. Last year I didn’t even know how to decorate the Christmas tree. The triggers were everywhere I turned. First, it was the many religious ornaments collected over the past two decades that were simultaneously sentimental to me and represented a faith I no longer wanted or possessed. Then it was the loss of comforting Christmas music, something I looked forward to all year. Instead of experiencing joy in my traditions, I instead grieved my loss reflected in every holiday trope. 

This is our new reality. So how do we stay grounded and enjoy this holiday season? Here are a few ideas that may help.

Create the boundaries

Before the holiday season goes full swing, decide what is off-limits when talking with family or extended family. What music is to be played? What celebrations will you attend or not attend? We establish boundaries not to insult others but to protect our mental health.

Create new holiday traditions

There are plenty of holiday celebration ideas out there that do not involve religion, many of which include amazing music and decorations. Sometimes, we just have to dig a little deeper into our creativity.

Choose experiences to create fresh memories

Make a list of all the experiences you want to have during the holiday season. What are some fun things/events that would make you happy? 

Don't do it alone

Ask me to walk through this season with you. Together we can enjoy this season, keeping you focused so you can have fun. 

There will be challenging times. Expect them. But also permit yourself to explore. Think ahead and apply these ideas to your life and your holidays can be more fun and enjoyable. Let’s make this the best stress-free holiday yet.